You’re not Perfect (and you don’t have to be)

There is definitely something to be said for taking pride in yourself and your work but we place a great deal of unnecessary stress and pressure on ourselves by having unrealistic expectations and ideals.  I suppose a part of the problem lies in the fact that we live in a society where we constantly compare ourselves, weigh ourselves; and when you compare your bank account to Bill Gates (who really ain’t that great) or expect yourself to look like the model on the billboard or expect your boyfriend to be the next Brad Pitt then yes, you are setting yourself up for epic failure.


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Not all of us are destined to be the next multibillionare. The model in the window was selected from the best of the best, then she had her hair and make-up done, was styled by a professional, photographed at the best possible angle and to top it all off, retouched by airbrushing afterwards.  As for the hunt for Brad Pitt… let’s face it people, genetics was just too ridiculously kind, the rest of the men out there are normal, average looking, good kinda blokes and you should stop  judging the book by its cover anyway.

We live in a society where we are constantly bombarded with what we should look like, who we should be.  Magazines and adverts tell us what to wear, how to look.  It occurs far too often that people try to no avail to be the next celebrity.  What is wrong with just being you?  You’re human, you’re imperfect and there is nothing wrong with that.  Don’t let your magazine tell you otherwise.

I’m not saying that you should stop trying to improve yourself or strive for greatness.  I’m not saying that you should sell yourself short or settle for second best.  I’m saying that you are perfectly you.  Instead of setting unrealistic expectations and wasting hours and days and weeks of your life pursuing vanity, wasting your hard-earned money on products and clothes and stuff that probably doesn’t even work anyway…  you should perhaps rather consider just loving yourself, as you are, wrinkles and cellulite included.

I’ve been a plus model for the last 4 years and one of my greatest banes has been trying to keep up that appearance.  People think modelling is a walk in the park and that all models look amazing but I tell you now that that is not the case.  It is the shallowest most fickle career on the face of the planet.  I also give you my personal guarantee that none of us look the way we look in the ads.  If I try to maintain that kind of appearance I would be wasting my life away because grooming is good but spending your life in front of a mirror is not a life well lived.

So please for the love of all that is right and holy give yourself a break. You’re not perfect, I’m not perfect, none of us are perfect.  It is our individual imperfections that make us so very endearing. We are exactly the way that we should be so rather than trying to look like Angelina Jolie simply be the best that YOU can be, don’t compare yourself or your face or your nose or your hair with that of other people.  Love yourself first as you are or you will never be happy.

So go to the store without make-up, go a week without straightening your hair, I promise you… the world will not end.  Skip reading that beauty magazine dictating your life and your behaviour for a month or three and see what happens.  Look to the ads only to find the things that you need rather than let them dictate your life.  Find your own style.  Find your own look.  And in so doing find your own happiest most beautiful self.  Don’t set yourself up for failure, live each day as if it were your first, the world is your canvas and you are meant to play.  Who wants to be a carbon copy of someone else when you can be your own wonderful unique self?

xx Cinderella911


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